A dog's life.

@nisakay_ : Awwww. Touching isn't it? :') A dog can be really faithful to you. Even though I can't have a dog. I still think dogs are awesome.

Life Index Cards

Every single thing that we've done throughout this whole life will be count and shown back to us. It's very creepy trying to imagine it, or just thinking about it. 

LIFE INDEX CARDS

In that place between wakefulness and dreams, I found myself in a room. There were no distinguishing features save for the one wall covered with small indexcard files.They were like the ones in libraries that list titles by author or subject in alphabetical order. But these files, which stretched from floor to ceiling and seemingly endlessly in either direction, had very different headings. 


As I drew near the wall of files, the first to catch my attention was one that read "People I Have Liked". I opened it and began flipping through the cards. I quickly shut it, shocked to realize that I recognized the names written on each one. And then without being told, I knew exactly where I was.This lifeless room with its small files was a crude catalog system for my life. Here were written the actions of my every moment, big and small, in a detail my memory couldn't match. 


A sense of wonder and curiosity, coupled with horror, stirred within me as I began randomly opening files and exploring their content. Some brought joy and sweet memories; others a sense of shame and regret so intense that I would look over my shoulder to see if anyone was watching.


A file named "Friends" was next to one marked "Friends I Have Betrayed". The titles ranged from the mundane to the outright weird. "Books I Have Read", "Lies I Have Told", "Comfort I Have Given", "Jokes I Have Laughed At". Some were almost hilariousin their exactness: "Things I've Yelled at My Brothers." Others I couldn't laugh at: "Things I Have Done in My Anger", "Things I Have Muttered Under My Breath at My Parents". I never ceased to be surprised by the contents. Often there were many more cards than I expected. Sometimes fewer than I hoped.


I was overwhelmed by the sheer volume of the life I had lived. Could it be possible that I had the time in my 30 years to write each of these thousands or even millions of cards? But each card confirmed this truth. Each was written in my own handwriting. Each signed with my signature. When I pulled out the file marked "Songs I Have Listened To", I realized the files grew to contain their contents. The cards were packed tightly, and yet after two or three yards, I hadn't found the end of the file.I shut it, shamed, not so much by the quality of music, but more by the vast amount of time I knew that file represented.


When I came to a file marked "Lustful Thoughts", I felt a chill run through my body. I pulled the file out only an inch, not willing to test its size, and drew out a card. I shuddered at its detailed content. I felt sick to think that such a moment had been recorded. An almost animal rage broke on me. One thought dominated my mind: "No one must ever see these cards! No one must ever see this room! I have to destroy them!" In an insane frenzy I yanked the file out. Its size didn't matter now. 


I had to empty it and burn the cards. But as I took it at one end and began pounding it on the floor, I could not dislodge a single card. I became desperate and pulled out a card, only to find it as strong as steel when I tried to tear it. Defeated and utterly helpless, I returned the file to its slot. Leaning my forehead against the wall, I let out a long, self-pitying sigh. And then I saw it. The title bore "People that I Have Taught About Allah". The handle was brighter than those around it, newer, almost unused. I pulled on its handle and a small box not more than three inches long fell into my hands. I could count the cards it contained on one hand.


And then the tears came. I began to weep. Sobs so deep that the hurt started in my stomach and shook through me. I fell on my knees and cried. I cried out of shame, from the overwhelming shame of it all. The rows of file shelves swirled in my tear-filled eyes. No one must ever, ever know of this room. I must lock it up and hide the key.


Source : Ustaz Nasir

Do you judge people?

When you heard about someone, automatically your mind starts to establish negative thoughts towards that person therefore leading to bad judgments. As you can see, everyone thinks their own opinions are right and justified, otherwise they wont even have those opinions, right? Hence our opinion may be a bit overly negative or that we just don’t really have a good basis for disliking so-and-so.

It’s also a sign of personal maturity to be able to have good judgments, positive feedbacks and to review what underpins our behavior. Think about it? Have we taken a dislike to someone for no good reason? Lets say, your friend criticize someone because of one personal reason, do you have to do it too?

Is this the kind of person we really want to be?

Sometimes, I too, may have made negative judgments towards other people. Innocent people. You see someone, based on their looks and actions, we pass judgments on them. Not good judgment either. I am trying to change. To have a better attitude. To change how I see things and also people. Do remember that, everyone, and I mean everyone has a good side in them. Eventhough life shows how cruel and heartless he may be, some people or someone may noticed the kindness inside. P/S: Well, some people may became a monster, ruthless or cold-blooded animals. So for those kind of people, obviously they deserve to have bad judgments.

Here's how the DUAL method : 

1. Don't pass judgment : If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself. 

2. Understand : Instead of judging, try to understand the person. Put yourself in their shoes. 

3. Accept : After you understand, try to accept for who he/she is. Not by trying to change them.

4. Love. : Loving others will serve to make your life happier. Loving others may also change the lives of others. 

You can try this quiz to see whether are you a judgmental person or not. Here’s the link,

http://blogthings.com/howdoyoujudgepeoplequiz/

This is my result:

“You know better than to judge a book by its cover, and you don't make snap judgements about people either.

You look at the facts, and you try to make educated choices. You never mind admitting that you're wrong.

It's hard for you to trust people that you've just met. You always need to get to know people.

You never go with your gut, but you may be surprised. Your intuition is probably more dead on than you realize.”
Someone told me that no matter how bad that person may be, always have good thoughts about them. Thanks. :)

Broken family?

Guess what I heard lately? Someone is getting a divorce. Surprised? Nowadays, it seems that 'divorce' is a common word. I don't think so. I will still be shocked every time i heard that. 

I grew up without a father and it's tough enough for me. But, seeing little kids grow up with separate parents? Its heartbreaking. Unless they remarried or the marriage was full of intense conflict and anger which will not be suitable for children or something. I see people with good family, still, they don't appreciate what they got.

Pepatah melayu 'manusia tak pernah bersyukur'.

Fyi, a kid may not understand his/her family problem but it will increases the risk that children will suffer from psychological and behavioral problems. I may not have the perfect family, my mom raised me well enough as a single mother. I was a rebellious teenager, however, I came to realized that I was not the only one. There are other people with worse case than mine. So, what do you think? If your family is broken enough, try to find someone who has gone through worse than that. And give it a thought.

Statistics shows how children think with separate parents.

Source : http://emeryondivorce.com/how_divorce_affects_children.php

Kisah Hakim Marzuki

Terjumpe satu kisah mengenai seorang nenek yang mencuri ubi kayu. Kesian alahai nenek nie. Nasib baik ade lagi manusia yang ade perasaan. 

Sangat mengharukan, seorang hakim bernama Marzuki di Mahkamah Indonesia berasa s...ebak dengan penerangan pesalah seorang nenek tua yang mengaku salah mencuri ubi kayu. Di ruang mahkamah pengadilan, seorang hakim duduk termenung menyemak pertuduhan kepada seorang nenek yang dituduh mencuri ubi kayu. Nenek itu merayu bahawa hidupnya miskin, anak lelakinya sakit, dan cucunya kelaparan. Namun pengurus ladang tuan punya ladang ubi tersebut tetap dengan tuntutannya supaya menjadi iktibar kepada orang lain. Hakim menghela nafas dan berkata, “Maafkan saya, bu”, katanya sambil memandang nenek itu. ”Saya tidak dapat membuat pengecualian undang-undang, undang-undang tetap undang-undang, jadi anda harus dihukum. Saya mendenda anda Rp 1 juta (lebih kurang RM350) dan jika anda tidak mampu bayar maka anda harus masuk penjara 2.5 tahun, seperti tuntutan undang-undang”. Nenek itu tertunduk lesu. Namun tiba-tiba hakim menbuka topi hakimnya, membuka dompetnya kemudian mengambil & memasukkan wang Rp 1 juta ke topinya serta berkata kepada hadirin yang berada di ruang mahkamah. ‘Saya atas nama pengadilan, juga menjatuhkan denda kepada setiap orang yang hadir di ruang mahkamah ini, sebesar Rp 50 ribu (lebih kurang RM17), kerana menetap di bandar ini, dan membiarkan seseorang kelaparan sehingga terpaksa mencuri untuk memberi makan cucunya. “Saudara pendaftar, tolong kumpulkan denda dalam topi saya ini lalu berikan semuanya kepada yang tertuduh.” Sebelum tukul diketuk nenek itu telah mendapatkan sumbangan wang sebanyak Rp 3.5 juta dan sebahagian telah dibayar kepada mahkamah untuk membayar dendanya, setelah itu dia pulang dengan wajah gembira dan terharu dengan membawa baki wang termasuk wang Rp 50 ribu yang dibayar oleh pengurus ladang yang mendakwanya.. Kisah ini sungguh menarik dan boleh di share untuk menjadi contoh kepada penegak undang-undang di Malaysia agar bekerja menggunakan hati nurani dan mencontohi hakim Marzuki yang berhati mulia ini.

Source : http://carigold.com/portal/forums/showthread.php?t=315834&page=6

Kony 2012 My perspective.

*The pictures are not mine unless stated otherwise

I read a lot speculations about this. I'm not sure which is right or wrong. I just believe that someone is trying to change the world. Trying to help the people in Uganda. If this program is just a scam..... At least, try to think, if its really true? Isn't that a good thing? Yes, do your research. Still, have faith in humanity.